Navigating Conflict Calmly
Lesson Overview
Subject: PSHE (Personal, Social, Health and Economic Education)
Year Group: Year 9
Unit Title: Respectful Relationships Unpacked (Lesson 5 of 6)
Lesson Title: Conflict Resolution Strategies
Curriculum Area: Relationships Education (in accordance with the Department for Education's statutory RSHE guidance for Key Stage 3)
Group Size: 3 students
Duration: 55 minutes
School Context: Small-group teaching setup supporting personalised learning, ideal for interactive, discussion-based learning.
Learning Objectives
By the end of the lesson, students will be able to:
- Identify and describe three core conflict resolution strategies: negotiation, compromise, and mediation.
- Demonstrate active listening techniques in a role-play simulation.
- Reflect on how communication styles impact the outcome of a disagreement.
- Apply learned strategies to a given relationship-based conflict scenario in a respectful and emotionally intelligent manner.
Success Criteria
- Students articulate the definitions and purposes of negotiation, compromise, and mediation.
- Students apply at least two conflict resolution strategies accurately in a simulation.
- Peer feedback reflects that students responded respectfully and constructively in their role-play.
- Students contribute meaningfully to group reflection, identifying strengths and areas for growth.
Resources Needed
- Printed scenario cards (examples included below).
- ‘Conflict Toolkit’ mini-posters (with quick-reference definitions and prompts).
- Emotion reflection cards (e.g., “I Feel… Because…” sentence starters).
- A 'Talk Token' per student (used as a participation strategy).
- Flipchart or mini whiteboards for discussion scribes.
- Classroom timer and chime bell for activity time management.
Lesson Structure
🔹 Starter (5 minutes) — Let's Define Conflict
Activity: 'Quick Fire Brainstorm'
Prompt students with:
“When you hear the word ‘conflict’, what comes to mind?”
Each student writes 2-3 key words on a whiteboard. Share aloud. Teacher facilitates clarification of understanding, distinguishing between healthy disagreement and harmful conflict.
Target learning: Establishes that conflict is a natural part of relationships and can be resolved positively.
🔹 Introduction to Strategies (10 minutes) — Building the Toolkit
Use ‘Conflict Toolkit’ mini-posters to introduce the three core strategies:
- Negotiation – where both people discuss their needs and agree on a solution.
- Compromise – where both sides give something up to reach a middle ground.
- Mediation – where a neutral person helps resolve the situation.
Mini Task: Match The Term — Students are given short descriptions and must match them with the strategy on their mini whiteboards.
Question for deeper thinking:
Why might someone choose one strategy over another?
🔹 Main Activity (30 minutes) — Conflict Challenge Simulations
Structure: Each student will take part in two different simulations (as participant and observer).
Instructions:
- Students draw scenario cards (see examples below).
- They are assigned a role: Person A, Person B, or Mediator.
- Observer student uses a peer-assessment form to track active listening, respectful phrasing, and strategy use.
Examples of Scenario Cards:
- You're upset because your friend shared something personal you told them in confidence.
- Two of you want to lead the same part of a group project. Neither is willing to give up the leadership role.
- Your friend keeps cancelling your plans last minute, but doesn’t explain why.
Each simulation lasts 5 minutes, with a 2-minute group debrief after each:
Debrief Prompts:
- Which strategy did you use?
- What went well?
- What felt hard about this?
- How did it feel when you listened or were really heard?
Extension Challenge: Have students “swap outcomes” and try resolving the same conflict with a different strategy. This deepens conceptual understanding and encourages flexibility in response.
🔹 Plenary (10 minutes) — Reflect and Reset
Activity: Individual exit slips.
Students respond to:
- One conflict I handled well this week was…
- One thing I will do differently next time I’m in a disagreement is...
Circulate while students write, offering short verbal feedback where appropriate.
Finish with a summarising phrase they say aloud one by one:
“I can handle conflict by…”
Assessment for Learning
- Formative: Observations during role-play, exit slip reflections.
- Peer assessment: Students provide feedback on body language, listening skills, tone, and respectful speech.
- Self-assessment: Rate comfort level with resolving conflict before and after the lesson on a scale of 1–5.
Differentiation & Personalisation
- Smaller class size allows for scaffolded questioning and immediate feedback.
- Scenario cards can be tiered in complexity.
- Students may choose written over spoken reflection where preferred.
- Visuals aid understanding for pupils with differing learning styles.
Cross-Curricular Links
- Drama: Use of role-play and performance techniques.
- English: Speech development, clarity of expression, debate structure.
- Citizenship: Democratic engagement and active community participation through mediation and negotiation.
Looking Ahead
Next lesson (Lesson 6):
Repairing Relationships & Emotional Reconciliation — Students explore the long-term impact of unresolved vs. resolved conflict, and strategies for rebuilding trust.
Teacher Reflection Post-Lesson
After delivering, consider:
- Did each student demonstrate increased confidence in resolving conflict?
- How did students respond to the small-group simulation approach?
- Was emotional safety in role-play adequately supported?
Final Thought
By creating a real-life lab for personal development, this lesson empowers our Year 9 pupils to become thoughtful, emotionally intelligent communicators — a skill that travels well beyond the classroom.
Prepared by: [Your Assistant Name Here]
For use in: UK secondary classrooms aligned with DfE RSHE statutory guidance for KS3.