💬 Part 1: Quick-Write & Emotion Recognition

Note: You don't need to share anything personal. You may use fictional people and situations throughout this worksheet.

1. What's the difference between being mates and being in a situationship? Write 2–3 sentences.

2. After watching the video, circle the emoji that best matches how someone in a situationship might feel:

😠 Angry

😟 Hurt

😰 Anxious

😕 Confused

😊 Excited

😌 Calm

3. Meaning Map: Think about a situation where someone is sending mixed signals. Fill in each column below.

Situation: Your mate has been texting you heaps, then suddenly goes quiet for days.

😔 Possible Feelings
(How might you feel?)

🤔 Possible Reasons
(Why might they do this?)

❓ What I Could Ask
(A respectful question)

📝 Emotion Word Bank: hurt · confused · anxious · frustrated · hopeful · embarrassed · lonely · relieved · excited · uncertain

🛑 Part 2: Pause Then Plan — Regulation Practice

4. Read this scenario, then answer the questions below.

Scenario: Jordan and Sam have been hanging out a lot. Jordan texts: "Hey, I think we should just be mates." Sam feels hurt and wants to reply straight away with something harsh.

5. Before Sam replies, which regulation steps should Sam use? Tick all that apply:

Pause — wait before replying (don't send yet)

Self-talk — say to yourself: "I can handle this calmly."

Reappraisal — think: "This might be uncertainty, not disrespect."

Send a sarcastic reply straight away

Ask a trusted person for a second opinion

6. Write a respectful response Sam could send to Jordan. Use one of the sentence starters from the box below.

✏️ Sentence Starters: "I might be reading this wrong, can I ask…" · "I felt… when…" · "I just want to understand…" · "Can we talk about…"

7. Send or Don't Send? Read this draft text Sam wrote in the heat of the moment:

"Whatever, you're so confusing. I don't even care."

✅ Send it

❌ Don't send it

Explain your choice using one reason linked to emotional safety:

📝 Respectful Language Word Bank: understand · clarify · honest · feelings · perspective · calm · boundary · question · agree · communicate

🔧 Part 3: Repair Steps & Exit Ticket

8. Repair Lego — Assemble a Message: Use the 4-step repair framework to write a short message for Sam to send to Jordan. Fill in each step.

Step 1 — Name the issue (no blame):
"I think we misunderstood…"

Step 2 — Share your intent and feelings:
"I felt… and I wanted…"

Step 3 — Ask a clear question:
"Can we clarify…?"

Step 4 — Offer next steps:
"Let's agree how to…"

9. Check your repair message against the 3-point communication rubric. Tick what applies:

🟢 Respectful — no insults, no sarcasm, no blame

🔵 Clear — the other person would understand what I mean

🟡 Calm — it doesn't escalate the situation

🎟️ Exit Ticket

Answer these two questions before you hand in your worksheet.

10. One regulation strategy I would use when emotions are running high is…

Because it helps me by…

11. One respectful question I could ask in a confusing relationship situation is…

⭐ Extension: If the other person is feeling anxious rather than confused, how might you change your repair message? Write an alternative Step 3 question below.