🧠 Part 1: Understanding Emotional Intelligence

1. What is emotional intelligence? Circle the best definition:

Being really smart at maths and science

Understanding emotions in ourselves and others to guide thinking and behaviour

Never showing any emotions

Only caring about your own feelings

2. Fill in the blanks using the words from the box below:

Word Bank: empathy, relationships, emotions, communicate, understand

Emotional intelligence helps us _____________ our own feelings and those of others. When we can recognise _____________, we can _____________ better and build stronger _____________. This skill also helps us show _____________ towards others.

😊 Part 2: Identifying Emotions

3. Match each emotion word with its description by drawing lines:

1. Aroha

2. Frustrated

3. Anxious

4. Grateful

5. Jealous

A. Feeling worried or nervous about something

B. Love, compassion, and care for others

C. Feeling annoyed when things don't go as planned

D. Wanting what someone else has

E. Feeling thankful and appreciative

4. Which of these emotions have you felt in relationships? Check all that apply:

Happy and excited

Disappointed

Proud of a friend

Worried about someone

Angry or frustrated

Grateful for support

Confused about someone's behaviour

💬 Part 3: Expressing Emotions Effectively

5. Complete these "I feel" statements for healthy emotional expression:

Example: I feel frustrated when my friend cancels our plans because I was really looking forward to spending time together.

a) I feel _____________ when _____________ because _____________.

b) I feel _____________ when _____________ because _____________.

6. Why is it important to use "I feel" statements instead of "You make me feel" statements?

🎭 Part 4: Recognising Emotions in Others

7. Read each scenario and identify the emotions the person might be feeling:

Scenario A: Your friend Tane has been very quiet today, avoiding eye contact, and his shoulders are slumped. Usually he's chatty and energetic.

Tane might be feeling: _________________________

Scenario B: Your classmate Aroha is speaking quickly, her hands are shaking slightly, and she keeps checking her phone. She has a big presentation today.

Aroha might be feeling: _________________________

Scenario C: Your friend keeps rolling their eyes, crossing their arms, and making sarcastic comments during group work.

Your friend might be feeling: _________________________

8. What are some ways you can show empathy when someone is upset? List three ideas:

🌱 Part 5: Applying Emotional Intelligence

9. Think about the concepts of whanaungatanga (relationships) and manaakitanga (care and hospitality). How can emotional intelligence help you practice these values?

10. Create an action plan: Choose one way you will practice emotional intelligence in your relationships this week.

What I will do: _________________________________________________

With whom: _________________________________________________

How I will know if it's working: _________________________________________________

11. Draw or describe a situation where good emotional intelligence made a relationship stronger: